I haven't had a memorable Valentine's day yet, every time I've been in a relationship over Valentine's day it's been total anticlimax. This year for instance, my fiance is going back home 4 days before Valentine's Day for at least a month so we're just spending as much time as possible together prior to him leaving.
Overall I don't put much stock in Valentine's day, as long as I'm with the person I love, or even if I know I have their best wishes, I'm happy. There's opportunities every day to show how much you love your partner, it doesn't need to be restricted to Valentine's day.
I love all holidays, and this one is no exception! I like the excuse to shower my sweetie with affection...not that I need an excuse!
Originally I tended to think of it as just a gambit to try and sell more cards, and stuffed animals, though rather lowly about it. Then when I met gamik and we started to go out I got into the spirit of it and honestly rather enjoy trying to find something nice for her and getting her flowers, and the whole thing. I Think it’s a bit romantic and sweet.
Valentines day is what you make of it. Of course it's nice if you have a significant other but it's a bit more difficult if you're like me and you're typically single come February 14. I know some folks that dress up in all black and brood around all day and I know some that use it as a good excuse to ask out that person they've had their eye on. V-Day may be a bit over commercialized, but other than that the holiday is what you make of it.
Valentines Day is the one day of the year that is so advertised that a single guy dating has no excuses for forgetting. You might forget an anniversary, but there is no way to forget Valentines day. It’s unforgivable. There is no way for you to make plans on this day in advance or not be prepared for. I think most guys will break up with a girl before Valentines day; because they know they are screwed when that day comes. Most guys can't play a girl through this date. The one flower or box of candy will not satisfy a girl for this date..especially if you haven't been sincere the whole time. Guys don't want to spend the money or time on the girl they are stringing along. I guess "the players" are revealed on this day.
I'm not such a big fan of V-day, anyway. I've never had a nice Valentine's Day. Even when I'm actually dating someone, something always ends up going sour, and ruining the whole day. So, for that reason, I don't even bother with it anymore.
Personally love Valentine’s Day, and always have. As a kid I looked forward to making my little mail box for my desk and passing out all my little cards. As an adult even if I didn't have a Valentine I still loved the feeling surrounding the day. I'm a little weird like that. Now I love it even more because I get to use that one day to treat my girlfriend even better and make her feel super loved like she is. I don't do it because I feel I have to, I do it because I love to do it. I personally don't do just candy and a roses, everyone does that. I usually get her some new candles (she loves candles), red and white carnations, candy hearts (they are her fave candy), and a few other presents. If I have to work in the evening like this year I will put all of this out on the bed on top of rose petals with a homemade card. I think more personal touches are more important than just running out and buying some boxed candies (unless they really like em), and some over priced roses.
I don’t really have any sad valentines stories...I think valentines day is a silly commercial holiday. you don’t need to spend money to show someone you love them, and you should show them everyday of the year!
wish I had a good valentine's day story....other holidays, sure, but valentine's has always been almost boring. either there's no one, and it's just another day, or there is someone and there's some flowers and maybe some dinner and that's that.
always thought that Valentines Day was a lot like Thanksgiving except instead of getting a turkey, you get something else’s...
I don't like valentines day. I would rather any sweet gestures come from the heart and his own imagination than some predefined notion of chocolate and candy on an assigned day. Plus, if you don't have a valentine it just gets depressing.
How I feel about it?? It’s a day the card companies and chocolate manufactures made up because their isn't a holiday from the beginning of January to the middle of April making Business quite slow.
Eh...I don't think I have an interesting V-day story...maybe the fact that I've purchased 14 cards and 3 teddy bears this year. I do plan to surprise my mom at her work(which is 2 hours away from my school) on Monday. I definitely think Valentine's Day has been commercialized a bit too much, but I still do think that the world needs at least one day to celebrate love.
hate the holiday. why do you need a special day to tell some one that you care for them? I would buy them something ANY day of the year if I cared for them enough. I’m bah-humbug when it comes to this holiday!
a sad story for a valentine day.... sure : I've always been single for valentine days.....
I encourage people to look out for performances of the Vagina Monologues around this time of year. College groups are give the go ahead for V-day performances (they can be anywhere from late Jan to early March) of the material to raise money for charities that work to end violence against women or offer support to survivors.
I think it's nice to have a day dedicated to romance and celebrating the person you love. We're all so busy, it's easy to get caught up in things and lose the romance... it's good to have a day like Valentine's day.
I know everyone says that each day should be a celebration of love with your partner but after with you've been with your partner for awhile, things can tend to get mundance, the bigger things become the smaller things and the smaller things can go unrecognized. I enjoy Valentines day...I love the color read. Everyone else seems to have their own special day, even the tooth fairy, so why shouldn't partners get a special day to say I love you in a formal way...?
I feel that the idea of a day where you do nothing but appreciate the person who you happen to be dating is absurd. Everyday should be that day. No special occasion should be needed. However, I must say that Valentine's day undoubtedly is a day that causes people who are normally too scared to ask some one to do just that. Its a day for being risky with love. So while the couples that already exist have a pointless day where they are obligated to spend money on eachother, those who are searching for a soulmate have a day where it is alright to be silly and romantic and try to obtain that which they have been searching for.
And now...a few Valentine stories from the lucky
and unlucky Valentines of 4thkingdom.
My first year at college, I met a girl named Megan, and we started hanging out a bit, and I just thought she was awesome. So, we went out a few times, and things seemed to be going very well. Over the course of a few weeks things seemed to be going very well. We'd go out a few times a week, and we'd hang out and watch movies, or grab lunch. So, one day we're talking, and she tells me that she really likes how things are going, and that she thinks of me as a potential boyfriend, and I'm feeling pretty good about this. So, Valentine's Day is coming up, and I decide that I want to do something really nice for her, because she's never had a good Valentine's Day. I decide to make her a card by hand. It took me five days to make this card, and it turned out just amazing. I wrote a romantic poem in calligraphy on the inside, and used gold pen to highlight the edges of the letters... it was really a nice card, if I do say so myself. Then I got a small vase and painted it, and got a rose and a small box of chocolates, and I got her room-mate to let me in on Valentines Day, and set them up so that she'd find them when she got back from class, then I left.
She stopped by my room on the way back from class and asked me if I wanted to get lunch, and I said sure. We head back to her room, and she opens the door and sees the card and the flower and such. She picks up the card, and reads it, sets it down and says "Oh. Well. That's nice. I'm going to lunch." Then she just walks away. So, I was pretty crushed, because she was clearly so disinterested in the card. So, the next day I stop by and we're hanging out, and I ask her about it. "So, what happened yesterday? I mean... that wasn't really the reaction I was hoping for when I gave you the card." She told me that she thought it was really sweet, but that it seemed a bit much for a friend. I asked her what she was talking about, and she said "Remember last week when we talked about this? And I told you how I thought of you as a potential boyfriend? And we decided that it would be good to just be friends?" I said that I remembered the conversation, but that I did not, in fact, remember us deciding to just be friends. Apparently, when she said I was a potential boyfriend, I was supposed to understand that to mean that we were just going to be friends.
~Samael~
Last year Feroze promised me a major Valentine's Day romantic lunch, yummy yummy, and all that jazz. I had to work in the morning, and we didn't want to go to dinner because of the crowds, in addition to my pregnancy making me very, very tired. So he told me he'd found a place and I asked him if he'd gotten the directions off of the internet. He said yes, picked me up from work, and we drove...and drove...and drove...all over the streets of Bethesda! Could not find the gosh darn restaurant anywhere! Finally we decided to go to Houston's, which is kind of an upscale steak joint. It was really crowded and we were waiting next to a cute little girl--who threw up all over the floor, my ankle, her mom, etc. After that appetizing little prelude, we got our food, and I couldn't finish mine--I gave it to a homeless man on the way back to the car. As we were driving away, we spotted, ONE STREET OVER, the restaurant we were supposed to go to--but guess what? It was closed!
~jackie joy~
Funny thing, actually, that valentine’s bugger is. My balls are in a vice for valentines day. My girlfriend seemingly innocently asked me 3-4 weeks ago, well away from the day, what I thought of it. I took it as casual intellectual fare. I responded with my true feelings. Bad idea. Most people hit their heads when I tell them, but... I had to be honest with her! Honesty is the best policy! I hate valentines day. I hate it I hate it I hate it! Then again, I don't like to celebrate any national holidays. Now you see why my balls are in a vice. She really wants to do something, but only if I do. I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't.
~kurt~
A few years ago I broke up with my boyfriend around June. The following January, we started talking again and hanging out every once in a while just as friends. He comes over one Friday, and neither of us realized that it was Valentines day. I had gotten the biggest zit in the middle of my forehead, and had tried desperately to disguise it with make up. That didn't work so well. At dinner, my brother said, "Hey, Triclops, pass the bread." I was mortified. My ex started laughing so hard, and then told my brother that Buddha was a more appropriate name. I could have killed them both.
~Esseilte~
Well, I'm a member of the Indiana Army National Guard. Back in May, my unit got activated, and in July, we came to Afghanistan, where I am currently. I got married to my wonderful wife (who is actually a new member of 4th) in April, shortly before I got activated. It’s been rather hard spending most of the first year of our marriage away from each other, and of course, with V-Day coming up shortly, it isn't going to be any easier. So really, my Valentine's Day story is a lack of a true Valentine's Day. I'll get to call my wife, if I'm lucky, but other than that, I'll just be looking at my pictures, thinking of her, and waiting to go home to her.
~LiErh~
February 14, 2000. The calendar indicated that I had been with my girlfriend for about two months, or a month and a half depending on how you count it. By this point in time I was beginning to have serious doubts about our relationship, wondering if perhaps I was with the wrong person. For this day, however, those doubts were put aside. We celebrated the day at her house, and even now I can hardly imagine the effort she put into making it all work out. She had done some research and prepared for us a lasagna dinner. Her family helped her set up the dining room for the two of us to eat together. She had spent the previous few days laboriously preparing gifts for me. It was all one of the most thoughtful things anyone has ever done for me. Too bad the relationship didn't work out ...February 14, 2001. With my last romantic relationship now a distant memory, Valentine's Day was no longer a day to celebrate my own romantic status and instead to deal with everyone else gloating about their romantic status, as I saw it at the time. I declared war on the Holiday and a crusade akin to that of Ebenezer Scrooge against Christmas, even saying "Humbug" when the subject of Valentine's Day arose.
It was, however, very difficult to maintain the pretense of bitterness and rage when my dear friend Lori gave me a card to lift my spirits. February 14, 2002. I was preparing for another Valentine's Day of holing up when, in a conversation with someone I respect very much, he suggested I write someone a Valentine's Day card. That someone turned out to a girl I had a crush on for a while. As it turned out, after I gave her my sorry excuse for a card, she rejected me on the grounds that I had developed a reputation for being somewhat desperate. Can you imagine? February 14, 2004. Yes, I know I skipped 2003. Nothing notable happened that year. 2004 really isn't worth listing either, but here it goes. A friend, who I had suspected for several months was attracted to me, gave me a Valentine's Day card. I was really excited, since I liked her too. Maybe she would be interested dating?! Ah, but I don't know for sure. Maybe she was just being friendly. So I did what I usually do in situations like these, and I remained indecisive until it was too late. There you have it, Pepper's Concise History of Valentine's Day. What will February 14, 2005 hold for me? The Magic 8-Ball says, "Don't break out the cologne quite yet."
~pepper2000~
My ex-husband and I used to work for the same company. I was very good friends with my supervisor, and my husband hated him! Needless to say, he was just jealous. So one Valentines day I made Valentines for all my co-workers on my shift, and one that was a little naughty for my husband. Well, I accidently gave the semi-naughty one to my supervisor! My supervisor thought it was hilarious, and he shared it with everybody. I, too, thought it was funny, even though it WAS very embarrassing. My husband failed to see the humor in it. He actually thought I did it on purpose. He's an idiot, and we're no longer together. But I don't pas out Valentines at work anymore...LoL!
~frayed~
Last year, my boyfriend told me he'd gone out and bought me a sexy red and black teddy as a gift, right? I didn't even know there was anything by that name other than the bear *blush* Night before Valentine's, he sent me a picture over the internet and I'm sitting here going, "Oooooooh dear."
He shows up at my school the next day just at the very end while I'm still in my student assistant class (I did grading and crap). Wouldn't have been a big deal, except the teacher was a good friend of mine AND my parents'. I nearly hit the floor! But it was a bear he brought to class at least ^-^ Still, I nearly died for a few minutes in there!
Aside from that, I figure it's silly. It's an over-commercialized excuse for guys to get into trouble with their girls, and for girls to go around bad-mouthing their guys. If you want to do cute presents, you've got all year, right? ^_^
~Ethereal Zephyr~
A couple years ago, my fiance and I actually rescheduled Valentine's Day. The day was looming closer, and we had no money to buy gifts, flowers or gorge ourselves on overpriced fixed menus, not to mention, we were both scheduled to work that night with no hope of requesting off. We looked ahead at the calender, and requested off work for the same day, and managed to have a completely stress free Valentine's Day on February 24th. Neither of us really cared that the date was different, in the end, it's taking that one day out of the year to spoil each other that's really the point.
~Domino~
Valentine's Day is one of my favorite holidays. It's a time of love and love is the greatest gift of all! It's a time to be with the one you love and a time for romance. Valentine's Day is the most special day for couples. I'm so happy to have someone to spend all my Valentine's Days with. I consider myself extremely lucky and I am very thankful! This year will be my 4th Valentine's Day with my boyfriend. The best memory of V-day that I have is from our first Valentine's Day. He got me a kitten that I had been begging for and I named her Valentine. :) And I made him a scrapbook of our memories that took me weeks to make. He was so happy when he looked through the scrapbook for the first time. He looked at me in that way that only he can and he got tears in his eyes when he realized how much time I spent on his gift. It felt so good to know that he appreciated it and he realized how hard I worked. My boyfriend is so special to me and I love him more each and every day. I'm so happy to be spending another Valentine's Day with him this year. Happy Valentine's Day!! :)
~StarShyne~
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This Day In History by Shyla
What's been happening on February 14th throughout the years? Couldn't find much in the way of love and romance and cupid with his bow and arrow. However, I ad libbed a bit in the parenthesis. Don't take it seriously, it's all in fun.
1859- Oregon became the 33rd state in the United States (it later became known as the oragami state, for all day long, the residents of oregon would spend their time making valentine oragami)
1896- Edward Prince of Wales, who would later become King Edward VII, became the first member of the British Royal Family to ride in a motor vehicle. (He was said to be on a lovers tyrst with a woman who would bring much scandal to the royal throne..luckily no one caught him with his lover..Gerald)
1920- The League of Women Voters was founded (the league of the women voters? on valentine's day? let's be serious.. there were a lot of women feminists with not much to do..do you think they were really talking about voting...or even talking?)
1929- Members of Al Capones gang killed rival gang members in the St. Valentine's Day massacre (it was rumored that Bugs made a pass at Capone's lady the year before on this same day, he got his just desserts, doncha think?)
1962- The first televised tour of the White House airs. First Lady Jackie Kennedy hosted the tour. (another lady bored with nothing to do, perhaps her mother was a member of the infamous "league of women voters)
1989- Iran's Ayahtolla Khomeini issued a fatwa, calling for the death of Salman Rushdie, the author of The Satanic Verses. (here is a man who doesn't celebrate this day of love and romance)
1989- Shortly after rolling over Michael Dukakis to become the forty-first president of the United States, George Bush set about compiling his first budget. On February 9, 1989, the former Vice President submitted a budget of $1.16 trillion, including an estimated deficit of $91.1 billion. While hardly small numbers, Bush's budget and defect projections seemed like improvements over his predecessor, Ronald Reagan. During his last two years in office, President Reagan submitted budgets that climbed over the then unheard of trillion mark, and in 1988, he projected that the deficit would climb to $129.5 billion. However, any notions that Bush would restrain federal spending or reign in the defect proved to be wishful thinking: in 1992, the president submitted what proved to be his final budget, which estimated a deficit of $352 billion.(umm yeah, what'd you expect? and on valentines day no less. kick the single people while they're down why don't you?)
2001- The Kansas Board of Education reversed it's 1999 ruling and restored evolution to the state's science curriculam. (but do they recognized valentines day? damn commies)
2003- Dolly the sheep, the first cloned mammal, was euthanized because of incurable lung cancer (she lived for something and died because of that something, but what does that have to do with Valentines day?)
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